New Ways of Being Love

Many years ago, I began to request of Cosmic Consciousness, the grace to experience new ways of Being in love. I asked to see love in 'new faces, and new places'. This request has led me, into whole new realms of greater and fresh understanding of this elusive and fundamental quality of Life. And it never stops. The lessons are constantly expanding.

For the most part, I relate it to all else I'm learning and attempting to practice about the principles of the quantum realm of Life. In light of that, I'd say that the article below is interesting, and has it's merits in sharing with us the data from relationships that follow a Newtonion structure. Newton's physics is all about what you can see, and quantify. What you can count and measure. That's why the article will even refer to the 'number' of friends that a person can supposedly have in their Life.

In truth, I would have liked to see the article below entitled, "Falling in Love CAN Cost You Friends", so that we the readers would understand that it's simply a very strong possibility. It's important for folks to know that it doesn't have to lead to that result.

Quantum physics is baffling to science, because it refuses to submit to the those defined perimeters - that something is valid only if it can be measured and counted. And for me, that's where quantum physics - current science- gets close to the realm of the subtle qualities of Life. What some call the 'spiritual.' Paying attention and noticing the invisable aspects of existence, I put them all together, and label them the qualities of the Divine, or Cosmic Consciousness. Some may call it God, Allah, or Universal Force.

Now the article below, describes a phenomena that I'm familiar with. Ususally I attribute what the article talks about to females, but I've seen males exhibit this too. You may remember as a young woman or man, that when your girlfriend, or one of the guys in your posse, got involved with someone special, you no longer saw your friend as frequently. Their new relationship had a magnetic effect on them, and more and more they were pulled away from your companionship or spending time with the group. This is because they were being drawn into a closer union with the object of their affection.

New ways of Being in Love for me, means to balance and sometimes resist this movement to a certain degree. It means to stay centered and grounded in who and what I Am. It means to respect and allow the other person to do the same. Staying grounded in my Life, keeps me from being too swayed out of my orbit, or off my destined path. It means that I still have the benefit and joy of my wholesome habits and those beloved friends, that have been there thru thick and thin, and who know me well. I benefit from their counsel, and they benefit from mine. And with those for which there is a deep affinity, our shared joy, fun and laughter is a priceless gift I would never choose to lose.

In truth, when I meet new friends, I immediately think of how they will enjoy and get along with those that I already love and are a part of my life. For the quantum example again, is one of expanding Universe, expanding wholeness and good. And that means my heart and mind also have to expand, to include this new love, along with the love of those friends that I still walk in harmony with on my life's journey.

How about release? The Cosmic principle of letting go, releasing and eliminating that which is no longer relevant or healthy as a part of who one is today? In friendship and love, this can be painful, or have a sting, but that ususally is because we are again like Newton, afraid of the space that will be left by someone's absence. Our 'clinging, clutching and holding' can often extend discomfort because we are not accepting that something, or someone in our life has run it's course.

What's that old saying about why someone comes into your life? For a Reason, For a Season, or Forever....? That makes so much sense, and gives us permission to not continue to hold on to that which is meant to be released.

Long round about way to introduce this article.....Hope it's made sense....Guess I needed to express the above.

Please receive it with the Love, it flows upon~

Kentke

Falling in Love Costs you Friends

By Jonathan Amos

15, September 2010

Science correspondent, BBC News

Falling in love comes at the cost of losing two close friends, a study says.

We probably all know that a passionate new relationship can leave you little time for others, but now science has put some numbers on the observation.

Oxford University researchers asked people about their inner core of friendships and how this number changed when romance entered the equation.

They found the core, which numbers about five people, dropped by two as a new lover came to dominate daily life.

"People who are in romantic relationships - instead of having the typical five [individuals] on average, they only have four in that circle," explained Robin Dunbar, a professor of evolutionary anthropology at Oxford.

"And bearing in mind that one of those is the new person that's come into your life, it means you've had to give up two others."

The research, which has only recently been submitted for publication, was presented to the British Science Festival at Aston University.

Professor Dunbar's group studies social networks and how we manage their size and composition.

He has previously shown that the maximum number of friends it is realistically possible to engage is about 150. On the social networking site Facebook, for example, people will typically have 120-130 friends.

This number can be divided into progressively smaller groups, with an inner clique numbering between four and six.

These are people who we see at least once a week; people we go to at moments of crisis. The next layer out are the people we see about once a month - the "sympathy group". They are all the people who, if they died tomorrow, we would miss and be upset about.

In the latest study, the team questioned 540 participants, aged 18 and over, about their relationships and the strain those relationships came under when a new romantic engagement was started.

The results confirmed the widely held view that love can lead to a smaller support network, with typically one family member and one friend being pushed out to accommodate the new lover.

"The intimacy of a relationship - your emotional engagement with it - correlates very tightly with the frequency of your interactions with those individuals," observed Professor Dunbar.
"If you don't see people, the emotional engagement starts to drop off, and quickly.

"What I suspect happens is that your attention is so wholly focussed on your romantic partner that you just don't get to see the other folks you have a lot to do with, and therefore some of those relationships just start to deteriorate and drop down into the layer below."
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